While Attending.................

I had an absolute awesome weekend. I attended this great birthday celebration at an associates home. Very nice event. I was totally impressed and had a great time. While out shopping on Saturday. I tossed on the above jacket. It was the rave for all onlookers/gawkers. (Please disregard the backdrop! My dressing room was in a slight disarray.... Hey I had a full weekend.)

I havent attended a house event since the holiday season ;so it has been a long time. When you attend a party it is imperative that you always take something. If the invitation states a dish, then oblige. If not then you must not enter or even imagine going without a beverage. The rule is to bring what you consume. It is declasse' to bring a beverage that you dont prefer and you are seeking the host last bottle of Grand Sie'cle. If you are not the invitee of the host, ask the person with whom you are attending about the invite.

When entering plaster a smile on your face and immediately look for the host to offer salutations. While entering remembering faces of those that you have made eye contact with. I call this when four eyes make two. This is the person that you will converse with immediatley. If you become nervous remember a few topics to initiate an exchange.

0. Your schelp to the party. ( Parking, commute to the event, something you experienced on the way.)

1. Sports - almost everyone likes some kind of sport.

2) Hobbies

3) Weather and climate being experienced

4) Your respective spouses and children(do not brag)

5) Media - such as television shows, movies, or music that both of you may like.

6) Holidays that you think the other person may enjoy (but refrain from talking about how much your holiday cost you - unless the other party brings it up.)

7) Your respective hometowns... Are you from ...............?

8) General information about the occupation of each person. (intro........... Are you in same occupation as ................................(the host)

9) Current trends in art or fashion.

10) Gossip about famous people. ( Keep in comical and not insulting)

Hopefully all these tips will allow you to have an easier time looking for a small talk topic.

Be well-read and well-informed about a host of topics. You have heard it said that it pays to read a lot and it is true - if you know a lot about different topics, you can easily conduct a conversation with people from different backgrounds. It will not be so hard to find a small talk topic then.
Keep the flow of the conversation on a casual keel. You might panic if the conversation takes on a very deep tone, such as when you are talking about politics or business, because then it becomes harder to find common ground that you can agree. Topics should be light, hopefully cheerful, so that you will be able to bond better with the other attendees.

Avoid controversial topics. Controversial topics might only put the other person on the defensive. Also, you and the other person might be on opposite sides of the issue.

BOW TIES AND POCKET SQUARES! etc. etc. etc.

As you all know that I am an advocate of the bow tie. I'm not going to go into full details about why. I have done that before.

Nevertheless, I am telling you all that men must wear a pocket square when wearing a suit or spot coat. It just takes the sport coat to another level. A level that many are fearful of. I have acquired more than 100 pocket squares and bow ties.

So, I say all this to beg of you to learn to tie manual bow ties and invest in pocket squares.

Ciao until later.

Etiquette 101 ............. CELL Phone Usage

Don't you just hate it when people are on their cellular phones,and speaking as if they learned how to whisper in a helicopter.

What prompted this post was while waiting taxing on the aircraft this guy next to me whips out his cellular phone and commences to have a full blown out meeting. Everyone in the entire aircraft could here him even in coach.

So, what I did to quail his verbal blog. I started chuckling. That got his attention. Then I just plastered an innocent smile on face and he got the message. So, here are a few rules for cell phone usage. TAKE NOTES!

2. One was just stated.............. Never use your phone at a dining table.

3. Try not to use your phone while on a date, or even text while the other party runs to the restroom. They will assume that you are checking in with someone else.

4. CHURCH, masjid, synagogues, weddings, theaters, funerals,.................. Your phone should be on silent.

5.Allow your calls to go to voice mail when handling transactions.

6. If you are in the presence of a group you do not have to answer the phone all the time. Just simply excuse yourself. My all time favorite is stop nursing your phone while out with friends. You are at a lounge and you go into withdrawl because your phone is not lighting up like the Vegas strip. Just get over it. ABSORB THE MOMENT!


If you are still using a flip phone, then take a look at these.
Here are some of the latest cell phones I think are hot---ola!
ASK YOURSELF THIS? Could you survive 5 hours with this device?

Miami! Miami! Miami!

I needed a little break from the cold of the city. So, I decided to do a little schelp to the subject matter. What a joke! The flight was really crowded. However, It was a pretty smooth one. Thank God!
I have come to the complete and total understanding that the economy has had an impact on all of us. I have become bff's with my crock pot and my housekeeper has been placed on sebactical.
I say all this to support that even Miami has had cut backs. Legendary night spot Mansion made an attempt to get $70 for entry to a half full venue. Prive' had more black jackets than patrons and Jerry's ( the diner or Collins) was empty as well. Tomorrow is another night and day!

Welcome to the White House!

Greetings ALL,I hope that this wonderful day has found you and your loved ones happy and pleased with all the world has offered. I am presently examining the DVR of the events in Washington D.C.
Now to the good stuff. LOL! I was asked to participate in a photo shoot.Hey given the fact that I was not asked to participate in the inaguration. I leaped at the opportunity. It was one of best I have done.There are few photos posted.
Someone recently asked me about cardigans. I used to loathe them. I could not understand the purpose. Now it is one of my favorite items. Really it is. However, everyone can't do them. Please stay in your lane. There is a certain attitude that must be established when wearing one.
I was in Ralph Lauren recently and one of the employees complimented me on my full length shearling. She said, "Not everyone could wear that!" She then went on to share that wearing Ralph Lauren is a lifestyle. I concurred. Some of you have still not gotten that embedded in your thoughts. Fashion is a lifestyle not something to toyed with.
OK! OK! I will simmer. I don't want to establish a somber moment on this great day. Ciao! ALways remember that "fashion is a luxurious necessity!"

I'm Back by POPULAR DEMAND! with VUITTON BAGS IN HAND!

That's right! I am back. I was meditating on the fact of whether I wanted to keep this blog going. WHY? There were so many faux bloggers who thought that they had what it takes to do my thing. Nevertheless, I am back .
I have read some blogs that are just trash. I mean they are chatting about frivolous things like BBQ's ( WHO EATS THERE?! !!!) I would not be caught dead in that spot. OH BBQ's is a place where people like to eat in the city. See how nice creatively stated this not so fine dining establishment. WOW ! I am a mess.

Let me set you all up with the must haves right away. How much I dislike that Vuitton Speedy, they have decided to reissue the graffiti from 2001. Praise the Lord! Check it out under Stephen Sprouse collection at Vuitton.com You know I got the sneakers for and a T-shirt.


Christian Louboutin is having a sale. 40% off. Hey,! it is a recession. Nevertheless, I am done for now. I have to run to the gym and get my spiritual, mental and physical in place. YES! I get my worship on the treadmill. The mental has to be there as well. Wait! the physical is awesome! Why? Don't ask! I have a photo shoot tomorrow. I will post the pics.

P.S. I have included a few photos of My day on Nov. 4,2008.
Went to vote. wearing Thom Browne( I am mess!) I then wore a bespoke denim suit when I schlepped to Harlem to share the next to Chicago experience, where I cried like a new born.

Always remembe, Fashion is a Luxurious Necessity!